When we see someone experiencing an emotion like anger, fear, or sadness, we often want to change the behaviour right away. Without even realizing it we want them to change their behaviours so we can feel better. How do we feel when someone tries to change our behaviour with words like, it’s not that bad, don’t be ridiculous, stop crying, put away your tears, you should just be grateful, it could be worse, let me tell you how I had it worse than you…” Yet why is it we often say these things to people or children who are upset?

Do you wish to discover a more loving and effective way to UNDERSTAND and address challenging behaviours in others? Be sure to read this article to discover this and more…

Do You Do This? Tips to Avoid Creating Conflict and Divisiveness

I recently felt inspired to write another blog after seeing several posts on social media that felt very divisive. They were posted by peaceful, loving individuals. This got me thinking about how often humans say and do things that perhaps unknowingly, contribute to conflict in our world.
Do you do this?…

I Need Help With My Child’s Behaviours!

Are you tired of dealing with your child’s challenging behaviours? Have you tried things like rewards, sticker charts, and even punishments for unwanted behaviour? Do you find the things you are trying draining and wonder why eventually they stop working?

Are you seeking ways to be a better parent?

Then be sure to read this blog and check out my website regarding upcoming parenting workshops.

Supporting Your Child or Teenager Through a Meltdown

As a mother of four children, I have had my share of dealing with meltdowns at various ages.

In this blog, I share several of my strategies that clearly DID NOT work and what motivated me to seek skills and understanding that would assist me in being more compassionate and effective in dealing with undesirable behaviour.

Even though I use the example of homework as a possible trigger for a meltdown in this blog, I offer perspectives and strategies that are helpful no matter the age of your child or what the triggering event might be.

Ready to deal with temper tantrums and meltdowns more effectively?

HOW TO HELP KIDS PEACEFULLY RESOLVE CONFLICTS

Need ideas for resolving conflicts between children?

Hey, Let’s Just be Honest: Why We Struggle To Be Fully Honest With One Another

One of the things we do every year at the school where I teach is host "Character Education Assemblies." One of the character traits we need to teach students about Honesty. I have noticed how easy it is for adults to tell kids to be honest and always answer truthfully yet how difficult this can be at times for us as adults to do in our day to day lives.

"Do you want to go out with me? Is it ok if I borrow your car? Do you think this looks good? Do you like what I did? Is that ok with you? Are you ok to watch my kids? I need to borrow some money, is that ok? How are you feeling?"

Read my blog to find out what may be blocking you from being fully honest with others...

Here, Let Me Fix You So I Can Feel Better

Somedays I find it challenging to interact with children in a calm peaceful way because I have been so well trained to focus on controlling their behaviour or fixing what appears to be wrong with them.

I have found that as I surrender my agenda to control children's behaviour or to fix them, the need for "behaviour managment" strategies disappears.

Now that is such a freeing feeling! Trying to control children's behaviour is so exhausting.

No threats? no rewards? no stickers? How is that possible?

Because I discovered this instead...

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