During an episode of the show, “Ted Lasso,” Ted expresses anger towards his mother for not working on herself. When we are upset with others, who really needs to do the work? And what does this involve? How can we free ourselves of the pain we experience by the actions or inactions of others?
Read MoreWhen we see someone experiencing an emotion like anger, fear, or sadness, we often want to change the behaviour right away. Without even realizing it we want them to change their behaviours so we can feel better. How do we feel when someone tries to change our behaviour with words like, it’s not that bad, don’t be ridiculous, stop crying, put away your tears, you should just be grateful, it could be worse, let me tell you how I had it worse than you…” Yet why is it we often say these things to people or children who are upset?
Do you wish to discover a more loving and effective way to UNDERSTAND and address challenging behaviours in others? Be sure to read this article to discover this and more…
Read MoreI first wrote this blog after meeting Sir Ken Robinson in person. Recently, after hearing of his passing last month, I decided to republish this blog about a man whose passion was to enlighten us on ways to better educate our children. As we enter into a time in education like no other, well, I must say how timely…
Read MoreHumans keep finding ways to create “war”. The topics in which we create wars keep changing or in some cases, resurfacing over time like sexual orientation or equality amongst races. Is it the topics that are war creating or our need for others to agree with us and do what we think is right that is most deadly?
What is the latest topic we are using that is creating separation?
What has this human phenomenon have to do with parenting wars as well?
During these times of racial tensions, getting along with others can be challenging. Are you choosing peace or war?
Many people have strong opinions about the meaning of the term Black Lives Matter and White Privilege. There are people voicing concerns over the participation or lack of participation in peace walks. People are sharing opinions on why there is violence during riots, the need for police conduct and training to change, the possible reallocation of police funding and training as well as questioning if the past behaviour of victims of police brutality justifies an officer's violent conduct. There is a great controversy over some people finding the need to remove historical statues related to slavery as well as how to reform the systematic racism in our schools and governments.
What are we to do?
Stay silent and feel permissive to injustices?
or
Speak up and risk persecution?
Amongst all these raised voices and opinions, how can we bring more peace to the planet?
Need an idea?…
Are you tired of dealing with your child’s challenging behaviours? Have you tried things like rewards, sticker charts, and even punishments for unwanted behaviour? Do you find the things you are trying draining and wonder why eventually they stop working?
Are you seeking ways to be a better parent?
Then be sure to read this blog and check out my website regarding upcoming parenting workshops.
Often we hear people making painful assumptions about what the other party is thinking. A colleague, friend and Mediator, Lori has witnessed the effects of painful assumptions far too often. After much discussion on the topic, Lori and I published an interview where we go deeper into how people can become more aware of their own thoughts.
During the interview, Lori and I discuss assumptions and how to break free of them. The topic of making assumptions also led us to discuss several topics around mindfulness. One subject we discussed was ways to ease your mind when you are making painful assumptions and how this will result in your relationships improving.
Read more on how you can ease your anxious mind and deepen your relationships.
Read MoreIn Canada, Bully Prevention week is November 18-24th. Once again, this issue is brought to the surface. We notice the issue of Bullying in classrooms, the playground, arenas, and various other places, yet what are we to do about it?
Many books and articles have been written about how to address the Bully. Dozens of programs have been written and implemented in schools about how to stop the Bully.
Why haven't bullies disappeared?
Read MoreRecently, while my teenage daughter and I were at her high school, we overheard a mom yelling into her cell phone about assignments not handed in.
When our children are not doing what we want, it can feel so painful. As a mom, I have done my share of yelling at my kids in an attempt to get them to do what I think is best.
Is yelling at our teens really that effective? Maybe in the short term, it creates some desired changes but over the long term, it can leave our teens more frustrated, more destructive and damage our relationships with them.
What can we do instead?
I recently wrote a blog about the Wim Hof, the IceMan. My blog was tagged to a woman, Sue Regan Kenney, who went to train with Wim Hof to become a certified instructor.
I decided I need to find out more about the Wim Hof Method and so I took a 4.5-hour workshop with Sue. It was incredible!
Want to know more about why on earth I was in a tub of ice and what I learned?...
Read MoreSomedays I find it challenging to interact with children in a calm peaceful way because I have been so well trained to focus on controlling their behaviour or fixing what appears to be wrong with them.
I have found that as I surrender my agenda to control children's behaviour or to fix them, the need for "behaviour managment" strategies disappears.
Now that is such a freeing feeling! Trying to control children's behaviour is so exhausting.
No threats? no rewards? no stickers? How is that possible?
Because I discovered this instead...
This summer I was speaking to a group of people about my recent introduction, by my daughter Grace, to the Ice Man, Wim Hof. He is a man who has done things, that most in the medical field, would say are impossible to survive.
How does he do these apparently impossible things? How would knowing the answer help you? And what does this have to do with Jesus?...
Recently my two younger daughters and I went on a road trip through Quebec. We had an experience that reminded us all of the powerful guidance system we all have within us called Intuition.
Read more on how tapping into your own gut feelings can help keep you safe.
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