I remember when I used to get very angry over the sight of a messy bedroom. After seeing my kid's messy bedroom I would give out lectures starting with "How many times do I have to tell everyone around here that it is not my job to pick up your dirty clothes off your bedroom floor... " as I was picking up dirty clothes off the floor.
Many things my children did or did not do would result in me yelling.
One day I woke up to realize I didn't have to yell. Yelling was a choice and I was going to do everything I could, for my sake, and more importantly for my family's sake, to stop yelling.
Be sure to read my latest blog to find out what I discovered about my upset and one strategy I still use to break my "autopilot cycle" of yelling...